4 Steps To Connecting With A Soul That is Meant To Be Your Child
There are many places you can turn in today’s culture to help boost your chances of conception. The fertility clinics are ready and waiting to help you with the latest technology: from testing to inseminations, in vitro fertilization, egg donor, sperm donor, embryo donation, and more. This is great for overcoming physical obstacles to pregnancy, but what about our spirit and mind? What happens when we forget about that amazing feeling when we first connected with our partner or with ourselves as a single person and said to the universe, “Yes!” “I want to bring a child into this world in love.”
We live on a planet that is suffering from climate change and the increase in technology that leaves us disconnected from nature and spirituality.
We need new innovators and spiritual guides to help us come back to our roots. I believe there are souls that will help us solve these problems, but they need to come into a very unique parent situation in order to have the mental space free to dream up their world-changing inventions. There are many souls with a high vibrational energy that are looking for an enlightened experience in this world. They are waiting for the right single person or couple to set a very specific intention so they feel welcomed into this world. Also, if you have a very specific intention, that will prevent other souls from coming to you who are not the type of child you are seeking. So, don’t be discouraged if you have waited a long time for your child to come into this world. That may be a sign that you are on the right path if you only go a little further. When we say that we are open to anyone coming to us, there are a lot more options, so it might happen sooner, but when we get really specific with our intentions, then we might need to uplevel our experience first to call them in. (So, don’t compare your journey with others around you. You are unique, special, and totally worth of becoming a parent.)
In my experience, I found my son interacting with me and talking with me for several years before he actually came into my world as my physical child. In fact, it was 11 years between when I first tried to conceive and when my son was born. At the start of my journey, I felt there were different souls that tried to come to me. I had many early losses and I remember feeling overwhelmed and confused as to why the losses kept happening. Looking back on that experience, I think they got rejected in a conflict of energy between me and my previous partner. After some work with a spiritual coach, I had a powerful dream guiding me to get rid of dental metals that were causing major auto-immune problems. Around that same time, I also went through a divorce. Once I was single, I set a new intention to find this sacred child. I felt the soul who was to be my son enter my energetic circle in my mind and he started to guide me. I kept feeling gentle nudges, that eventually led me to move from my home of Seattle, USA to Stockholm, Sweden. I met my now-husband on the dance floor (click here to read about the night we met). But, it took us 4 years to actually date. The turning point was when I shared with him, “I am planning to be a single mom by choice.” His face lit up and he started asking more questions.
For me taking the bold leap of deciding to be a single mom was saying that I could be a parent on my own and also signaling to the universe that the time was now. Mattias, who later became my husband, was drawn to the energy and excitement I had about having a child. And, only 5 months after I moved to Sweden to be with my new partner (along with moving countries and changing languages and changing jobs), we conceived our son when I was 43 and he was 38. I worked with an acupuncturist, used meditation, and journaling, and I reflected on prior spiritual coaching sessions.
If you believe in a God that really wants you to have a special child, remember that you have to keep taking steps toward your goal. Wallowing in fear and frustration is not going to get you closer. It’s ok to be sad, it’s ok to mourn your losses, it’s ok to be frustrated at times, but find people and practitioners that will help you take those tears of sadness and turn them into rivers of energy flow. So, if you are reading this and desiring of a child, here are some tips to help draw you closer.
- Take time as a couple or by yourself to light a candle and set your intention that you are going to allow a high-vibe soul into your energy. Take a deep breath in and simply say thank-you for the child that is going to be in your family someday.
2. Start to pay attention to signs that this child is speaking with you. Find a spot in nature or next to some indoor plants. Get out your journal and free-write. This means put pen to paper and don’t stop to think about what you are writing. Imagine that this child is around you and see if you can let them speak through your writing. Once you feel comfortable with the free-write, start to ask questions and be curious. If you notice a certain soul is hanging around, then ask them what you need to do to help them come into your family. Ask if there is something that needs to be healed for that to happen.
3. Get clear on any past losses. Ask if that child is wishing to come to you again or if you should let go of that energy to make way for a new soul to come. If you need to let go, then make a ritual around that and give thanks for the time that soul did enter into your vibration and your family. You were a parent even if only for a short duration.
4. Find music that is healing and uplifting and use it for meditation. When you feel down or have a hard day, make the songs part of your safe place at home or where ever you are. And when you are feeling good, use the songs to tune in to the path that is best for you.
If you are seeing patterns that need examining or family issues that are repeating themselves, you may need some help in clearing the energy and guiding you back to health.
Working with a counselor, fertility coach or medical intuitive can help you get clear on which practitioners you need to see and what direction you should take next.
In all parts of the process, you need to guard your energy and be careful about who you work with. If you get a bad feeling in your stomach when meeting with someone, then go find someone else. Think about your options and ask others for referrals. I remember feeling I should go to the fertility clinic when I was trying to conceive with my previous partner, so I went with the first recommendation given to me. But, I felt horrible the moment I walked in that door even though it was a sunny day outside. It turned out to be a place where I was not listened to and I even got laughed at when trying to ask questions and get involved with the treatment plan. If you want to work with an acupuncturist, nutritionist, massage therapist or any other practitioner, make sure that they resonate with you. Tell them about your situation, ask what their approach would be, and then listen to that small voice inside of you to help see where you should go next.
Luck is when opportunity and preparedness meet.
So, make sure to prepare yourself with information and healthy thoughts so that when the time comes to put your trust in someone, you can make an informed decision about the options that are presented. May you be filled with abundance every day in pursuit of your dreams and open your heart energy to receive the miracle that is coming your way. (If you want to hear more about all the miracles that unfolded on the journey to my son, read here.)
